It’s okay to write, despite the more common approach these days to type, and not record things in longhand.
Writing in longhand, that is, hand-writing, connects us to our true feelings and emotions. Given it is a slower, more considered format than typing (or dictating), writing longhand can help us to channel what we are deeply, truly feeling and experiencing.
This is particularly the case if we are writing during or after a grief or transition period.
When we are feeling overwhelmed by life, taking time to celebrate can be the furthest thing from our thoughts.
During significant transitions, at our peak parenting times (when our children need us the most), or simply when life is hectic and we are literally running from activity to task and back again; life can feel overwhelming. It’s at these times when the busy-ness of life and our commitments can feel too much.
This is when it’s okay to celebrate.
It’s March, and only a week or so into the official change of season – perfect timing to begin planning. A new three-month period, full of potential and opportunity is upon us, ready to be designed to suit you.
The new season can be an ideal time to consider what you want from your life. But not necessarily on a large-scale (after all, it’s not New Year!). Rather, consider how do you want to feel in 3 months time? When the season changes again, what would you like to have achieved or done?
Creating a bucket list is a popular thing to do. But I must confess, until a couple of weeks ago, I didn’t have one. And I hadn’t given the creation of one much thought either, until a comment from a friend let me know that an experience I had recently, was on her bucket list. It got me thinking; maybe I should create a bucket list.
But first I needed to find out, what exactly was a bucket list and what was the benefit of one?
It’s okay to be kind. Kindness is what everyone is talking about (along with mindfulness), right? Everyone from your boss, your friends and the Uber driver is talking about kindness, and it seems like kindness is having a moment. But surely, we should all be kind, all of the time?
It can feel very hard to be grateful when we are experiencing unwanted change, loss or undergoing a major life transition. Feeling thankful can be almost impossible when we feel overwhelmed, stressed and grief-stricken. The very idea of gratitude at this time can be abhorrent and feel completely inappropriate.
Yet expressing gratitude for what we have, and acknowledging the gifts in our life, is the best way I know to lift our mood and improve how we feel.
There are times in our life when taking action can feel hard. When we are experiencing a life-changing transition, or are feeling overwhelmed and stuck, contemplating our future self can help. When we decide to do something for our future self, our motivation is higher, procrastination is lessened and we tend to step into action.
Whether we have experienced a transition, grief, or significant change in our lives, there come times when we feel the need to change direction. Changing direction can be a choice we consciously make, or something that is decided for us. Sometimes circumstances dictate that a change of direction is the only way to move forward.
It’s okay to change direction.
A few short months after the loss of our baby boy, my eldest son and I were taking a bus trip into town. It was an exciting time for him, as he loved taking the bus anywhere as it was such a novelty!
We were seated near the front of the bus, and he was busy talking to me about all the buildings, cars, trucks, other buses and the other things he could see. He was pure 2-year-old enthusiasm; happy, joyful and excited! I was enjoying his enthusiasm despite feeling bus-sick (yes, I am an adult who still gets motion sick…)
Being mindful is like the new black. Being in the moment. Mindfulness.
Everyone talks about it and we all apparently *should* aspire to have moments of it in our days. It’s been shown to improve our well-being and improve our productivity, efficiency and overall happiness. For all people that sounds pretty good, but as busy mothers, it sounds amazing, right!?