Category: Grief Support (page 1 of 5)

Pre-grief: Saying goodbye in advance

Pre-grief is also called anticipatory grief.  It essentially means having a grief reaction before the loss has actually occurred.

Pre-grief is the sadness we feel when we experience the passing of time with our loved ones.  People who were once so vibrant and full of life, become vague, forgetful and /or their senses fail them (eyesight, hearing). They are still with us, yet not the same.  And so we experience a sense of grief for the person they were and who they no longer seem to be. That person who is now lost to us, yet physically they are still here.

We mourn and miss the person they were, whilst they are still alive.

Pre-grief feelings of pain and loss can also come about from imagining what life will be like without our loved one.  This is particularly the case when our loved one is sick or dying.

We can experience pre-grief in many different relationships.  A grandparent, an elderly friend, your own parent or even your child – can all trigger pre-grief.

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-up – Jodie Matthews

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This quarterly interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Jodie Matthews

Today we meet Jodie Matthews.

Jodie is mother to Hamish, a qualified CPA (Certified Practising Accountant) and life coach as well as a meditation teacher.

Bringing her many talents together, Jodie is passionate about empowering women around self-worth and money.

Her love for Hamish led her to write a daily blog, which shares her grief journey.  She has also written a book on ‘Navigating Baby Loss’. The book shares her story of dealing with the loss of Hamish and stories of seven mothers whom have also experienced loss.

Jodie is an inspiring woman and mother, and I know you will enjoy this interview with her as much as I did.

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Honouring your Memories: creating a memory box

Using a memory box helps honour our memories, whilst getting organised.  

It’s nearly the end of March, a new season is upon us and New Year’s resolutions feel like a long time ago.  With the Easter long weekend coming up, you might be contemplating either heading away or tackling a home organisation project.

One area of home organisation we often put off is tackling sentimental items. 

Today, I am going to share how we can get organised whilst honouring our memories, with a memory box.

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-up – Ann-Maree Imrie

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This quarterly interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Ann-Maree Imrie

Ann-Maree with Kai and “You Could Have Been…”

Today we meet Ann-Maree Imrie.

Ann-Maree is a social worker and author of the children’s picture book, ‘You Could Have Been…’

Ann-Maree used the grief she felt after the stillbirth of her first son to write a book for bereaved parents to read to their child who died, or didn’t survive a pregnancy.  It’s filled with a parent’s wonder of who their child could have been if they’d had the chance to grow up. The book is written to the child, so a parent can talk to them about their lost hopes and dreams, but most importantly, their love.

Ann-Maree is an inspiring woman and mother, and I know you will love learning more about her in this interview.

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Counting my blessings: It’s Okay to be Grateful

Being grateful.

It can feel very hard to be grateful when we are experiencing unwanted change, loss or undergoing a major life transition.  Feeling thankful can be almost impossible when we feel overwhelmed, stressed and grief-stricken.  The very idea of gratitude at this time can be abhorrent and feel completely inappropriate.

Yet expressing gratitude for what we have, and acknowledging the gifts in our life, is the best way I know to lift our mood and improve how we feel.

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-Up – Lisa Wilson

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This quarterly interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Lisa Wilson

Lisa Wilson from Still A Mama.

Today we meet Lisa Wilson.

Based in the UK, Lisa  is the founder and owner of Still A Mama.

She founded Still A Mama after her daughter Gracie was stillborn in July 2016.

Using her passion and creative skills, Lisa designs products to honour all babies taken too soon and sells them through the Still A Mama website.  In this way, she supports Angel Mums on their journey to building a new normal.

Lisa kindly shares her very moving story in her own words, in this interview.  She is an incredibly resilient mother, and I know you will be impressed by this inspiring woman too.

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A Mother’s Love – My Story of Baby Loss

In honour of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, today I share my story.

You may feel you know a fair bit about me, due to what I share here on a regular basis.  But much of my story I have not shared before as it has been too painful, and too personal.

My story is one of a mother’s love.  A story of baby loss.  This week marks 9 years since we lost our second son.  Those nine years sound like a long time, but they also feel like a mere moment.

I share my story today in the hope it may help someone.  Another parent who has lost a baby and is grieving and feeling alone.  Maybe that parent is you.

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Emotional triggers: the power of smell

There are particular smells that remind us of things, experiences, places, and people.  Scent triggers are highly emotional and can be found in the most unusual circumstances.

The sniff of a certain perfume, the scent of the freshly mown lawn, the strong chlorine smell of the local public pool…  All of these can evoke very powerful, and at times overwhelming, memories.

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It’s Okay to get off the bus; you can choose to engage or not

A few short months after the loss of our baby boy, my eldest son and I were taking a bus trip into town.  It was an exciting time for him, as he loved taking the bus anywhere as it was such a novelty!

We were seated near the front of the bus, and he was busy talking to me about all the buildings, cars, trucks, other buses and the other things he could see.  He was pure 2-year-old enthusiasm; happy, joyful and excited!  I was enjoying his enthusiasm despite feeling bus-sick (yes, I am an adult who still gets motion sick…)

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Embrace the moment: It’s okay to be mindful

Being mindful is like the new black.  Being in the moment. Mindfulness.

Everyone talks about it and we all apparently *should* aspire to have moments of it in our days.  It’s been shown to improve our well-being and improve our productivity, efficiency and overall happiness.  For all people that sounds pretty good, but as busy mothers, it sounds amazing, right!?

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