It’s Okay to Write; the healing effects of the written word

It’s okay to write, despite the more common approach these days to type, and not record things in longhand.

Writing in longhand, that is, hand-writing, connects us to our true feelings and emotions.  Given it is a slower, more considered format than typing (or dictating), writing longhand can help us to channel what we are deeply, truly feeling and experiencing.

This is particularly the case if we are writing during or after a grief or transition period.

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Pre-grief: Saying goodbye in advance

Pre-grief is also called anticipatory grief.  It essentially means having a grief reaction before the loss has actually occurred.

Pre-grief is the sadness we feel when we experience the passing of time with our loved ones.  People who were once so vibrant and full of life, become vague, forgetful and /or their senses fail them (eyesight, hearing). They are still with us, yet not the same.  And so we experience a sense of grief for the person they were and who they no longer seem to be. That person who is now lost to us, yet physically they are still here.

We mourn and miss the person they were, whilst they are still alive.

Pre-grief feelings of pain and loss can also come about from imagining what life will be like without our loved one.  This is particularly the case when our loved one is sick or dying.

We can experience pre-grief in many different relationships.  A grandparent, an elderly friend, your own parent or even your child – can all trigger pre-grief.

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Why celebrating our small achievements matter; It’s Okay to celebrate

When we are feeling overwhelmed by life, taking time to celebrate can be the furthest thing from our thoughts.

During significant transitions, at our peak parenting times (when our children need us the most), or simply when life is hectic and we are literally running from activity to task and back again; life can feel overwhelming.  It’s at these times when the busy-ness of life and our commitments can feel too much.

This is when it’s okay to celebrate.

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-up – Jodie Matthews

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This quarterly interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Jodie Matthews

Today we meet Jodie Matthews.

Jodie is mother to Hamish, a qualified CPA (Certified Practising Accountant) and life coach as well as a meditation teacher.

Bringing her many talents together, Jodie is passionate about empowering women around self-worth and money.

Her love for Hamish led her to write a daily blog, which shares her grief journey.  She has also written a book on ‘Navigating Baby Loss’. The book shares her story of dealing with the loss of Hamish and stories of seven mothers whom have also experienced loss.

Jodie is an inspiring woman and mother, and I know you will enjoy this interview with her as much as I did.

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Self-care for time-poor Mothers: suggestions for quick self-care

The term self-care gets bandied around a lot.  I too am guilty of talking about self-care, and have written a few previous posts about self-care for mothers and why it’s valuable and necessary.  And whilst it’s a concept with increasing usage, that doesn’t diminish it’s importance.

Self-care is especially important when we are going through a time of significant change.  Whether the change was wanted or unwanted, the need for self-care and self-compassion at these times is crucial.

However, when we are not experiencing significant transition, self-care and making time for what that entails, can feel like effort we cannot justify.  As busy mothers we can find lit self-care is a low priority.  One of our most popular excuse is we just don’t have time.  However, daily self-care need not require a large time commitment. 

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How knowing your strengths makes you happier

We each have strengths. There are personality strengths, physical strength, spiritual strength and so on.

I want to talk about the strengths, or talents, that help make us who we are.  The skills, abilities and talents, that when we are operating within them, bring us enormous joy in our life, a sense of purpose and satisfaction.

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Honouring your Memories: creating a memory box

Using a memory box helps honour our memories, whilst getting organised.  

It’s nearly the end of March, a new season is upon us and New Year’s resolutions feel like a long time ago.  With the Easter long weekend coming up, you might be contemplating either heading away or tackling a home organisation project.

One area of home organisation we often put off is tackling sentimental items. 

Today, I am going to share how we can get organised whilst honouring our memories, with a memory box.

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Designing your Season: It’s Okay to Plan

It’s March, and only a week or so into the official change of season – perfect timing to begin planning.  A new three-month period, full of potential and opportunity is upon us, ready to be designed to suit you.

The new season can be an ideal time to consider what you want from your life.  But not necessarily on a large-scale (after all, it’s not New Year!).  Rather, consider how do you want to feel in 3 months time?  When the season changes again, what would you like to have achieved or done?

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The joy of letting go: making the most of life transitions

There are many times in our lives when we desire to find joy by letting things go.  Possibly the most challenging and yet potentially most rewarding, is the joy of letting go during major life transitions.

Life transitions are an opportunity to let go of your own limitations, expectations and the constructs that keep you playing small.  Discarding the beliefs that stop you doing what you want to do.  Times of significant life change are ideal to reconsider what you truly desire and let go of everything else.

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-up – Ann-Maree Imrie

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This quarterly interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Ann-Maree Imrie

Ann-Maree with Kai and “You Could Have Been…”

Today we meet Ann-Maree Imrie.

Ann-Maree is a social worker and author of the children’s picture book, ‘You Could Have Been…’

Ann-Maree used the grief she felt after the stillbirth of her first son to write a book for bereaved parents to read to their child who died, or didn’t survive a pregnancy.  It’s filled with a parent’s wonder of who their child could have been if they’d had the chance to grow up. The book is written to the child, so a parent can talk to them about their lost hopes and dreams, but most importantly, their love.

Ann-Maree is an inspiring woman and mother, and I know you will love learning more about her in this interview.

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