Tag: transitions

Counting my blessings: It’s Okay to be Grateful

Being grateful.

It can feel very hard to be grateful when we are experiencing unwanted change, loss or undergoing a major life transition.  Feeling thankful can be almost impossible when we feel overwhelmed, stressed and grief-stricken.  The very idea of gratitude at this time can be abhorrent and feel completely inappropriate.

Yet expressing gratitude for what we have, and acknowledging the gifts in our life, is the best way I know to lift our mood and improve how we feel.

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Emotional triggers: the power of smell

There are particular smells that remind us of things, experiences, places, and people.  Scent triggers are highly emotional and can be found in the most unusual circumstances.

The sniff of a certain perfume, the scent of the freshly mown lawn, the strong chlorine smell of the local public pool…  All of these can evoke very powerful, and at times overwhelming, memories.

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What Travel and Transitions have in common

People paced.  Others sat.  Some chatted on their phones, and others poked frantically at the device cradled lovingly in their palm.

But we were all waiting.

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Focus your attention elsewhere; It’s okay to admire

It’s okay to admire people, places and things.

When we are feeling down, sad or grief-stricken, it can be very hard to see the positive in life. Our focus is on ourselves, our feelings of sorrow or loss, and even if we desire to feel happy, we may not be able to summon those feelings.

But, when we focus our attention elsewhere, we take ourselves out of our sorrow (and out of our own head), we lift our emotional state.  And a simple way to do this is via admiration.

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The upside of negative emotions; it’s okay to feel sad

There are valuable upsides in allowing ourselves to experience feeling sad and the so-called negative emotions.

Over the past couple of decades, there has been an increased labelling of emotions as positive and negative.  As part of this, sadness has been seen as a negative, and something to be avoided at all costs.  And, happiness is seen as a positive emotion, and one we are all striving to achieve.  But, in order to live balanced, well-adjusted lives, we need to experience both emotions.

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