It’s a question every parent of a toddler faces multiple times a day. But it’s also commonly asked of us in adult conversations too. Whether we are a corporate high-flyer, a stay at home mum, a working mum, or any other combination, it’s hard to escape the question; ‘What is your why?’
People paced. Others sat. Some chatted on their phones, and others poked frantically at the device cradled lovingly in their palm.
But we were all waiting.
Whether we have experienced a transition, grief, or significant change in our lives, there come times when we feel the need to change direction. Changing direction can be a choice we consciously make, or something that is decided for us. Sometimes circumstances dictate that a change of direction is the only way to move forward.
It’s okay to change direction.
As a parent who has lost a child, I am acutely aware of how quickly life can change or end. In an instant, our whole world can be turned upside down. Life is short, and precious.
Regardless of whether you have lost someone or not, we all want to make the most of our life. We want to look back without regret. We want to live our life fully; to appreciate it and not feel we are constantly ‘waiting’ until we can live that life.
But how do we honour that feeling? How do we ensure our life has purpose? What spurs us into action? How do we bring joy back into the everyday?
Truthfully, the biggest motivator for me is contemplating my ending.
Our home is a place where ideally, we feel most ourselves. It is a place of shelter and sanctuary that offers security and comfort. Our homes also hold many of our most valuable things; our loved ones, treasured heirlooms and possessions, as well as precious memories.
We are currently in the process of preparing to move house, and as a result I am feeling like Marie Kondo on speed! I’m touching every single item in my home and asking not only does this spark joy, but is it useful, do we need it, do we love it and will we need it in our new abode. That is a lot of questions to be running through your head, let me tell you!
Last week I found myself reflecting upon how I came to be here. Not in a ‘where did I come from’ type of way, but more where I was 12 months ago versus now.
We all reflect a little on our lives at certain times in the year; what we’ve achieved or accomplished, what’s working and what is not working. Often the times we find ourselves in a reflective mood coincide with special occasions, such as birthdays, family celebrations (anniversaries) and of course, the most well-known, New Year.
But there is merit in reflecting at other times too – precisely because it’s not a special time, so the pressure is off. Instead we can simply reflect and ponder on what we’ve done or learned or changed over the previous period.