Creating a bucket list is a popular thing to do. But I must confess, until a couple of weeks ago, I didn’t have one. And I hadn’t given the creation of one much thought either, until a comment from a friend let me know that an experience I had recently, was on her bucket list. It got me thinking; maybe I should create a bucket list.
But first I needed to find out, what exactly was a bucket list and what was the benefit of one?
It’s a question every parent of a toddler faces multiple times a day. But it’s also commonly asked of us in adult conversations too. Whether we are a corporate high-flyer, a stay at home mum, a working mum, or any other combination, it’s hard to escape the question; ‘What is your why?’
There are times in our life when taking action can feel hard. When we are experiencing a life-changing transition, or are feeling overwhelmed and stuck, contemplating our future self can help. When we decide to do something for our future self, our motivation is higher, procrastination is lessened and we tend to step into action.
As a parent who has lost a child, I am acutely aware of how quickly life can change or end. In an instant, our whole world can be turned upside down. Life is short, and precious.
Regardless of whether you have lost someone or not, we all want to make the most of our life. We want to look back without regret. We want to live our life fully; to appreciate it and not feel we are constantly ‘waiting’ until we can live that life.
But how do we honour that feeling? How do we ensure our life has purpose? What spurs us into action? How do we bring joy back into the everyday?
Truthfully, the biggest motivator for me is contemplating my ending.
Hello and welcome!
My name is Rowena Mabbott and I am an energy and lifestyle coach, and aspiring writer. I am passionate about seeing the positive in situations and enjoying the special moments in the everyday that remind us we live in a world where we can experience joy, hope and love.
A big part of why I am here, as a coach and writing this blog, is because more than 7 years ago my second son was stillborn. After a period of intense sadness and a lot of grief, I went on to have another beautiful son and experience many joyful, happy and love-filled moments.
But that journey had tough times where I questioned whether I would be ok, if my marriage would survive or whether somehow my first son would be irrevocably harmed by my sadness and grief. Thrown into the mix was the usual challenge of trying to be it all and have it all. Yet I came through the other side with a renewed passion for life and an appreciation for the little things that remind us that life is precious and is there to be enjoyed.
My purpose in life now is to help other women transform their lives from one of experiencing the pain of loss, unwanted change, anxiety, challenge and imbalance to a balanced, happy life. I do this via my blog and coaching practice.