It’s March, and only a week or so into the official change of season – perfect timing to begin planning. A new three-month period, full of potential and opportunity is upon us, ready to be designed to suit you.
The new season can be an ideal time to consider what you want from your life. But not necessarily on a large-scale (after all, it’s not New Year!). Rather, consider how do you want to feel in 3 months time? When the season changes again, what would you like to have achieved or done?
There are many times in our lives when we desire to find joy by letting things go. Possibly the most challenging and yet potentially most rewarding, is the joy of letting go during major life transitions.
Life transitions are an opportunity to let go of your own limitations, expectations and the constructs that keep you playing small. Discarding the beliefs that stop you doing what you want to do. Times of significant life change are ideal to reconsider what you truly desire and let go of everything else.
Creating a bucket list is a popular thing to do. But I must confess, until a couple of weeks ago, I didn’t have one. And I hadn’t given the creation of one much thought either, until a comment from a friend let me know that an experience I had recently, was on her bucket list. It got me thinking; maybe I should create a bucket list.
But first I needed to find out, what exactly was a bucket list and what was the benefit of one?
Self-sabotage can occur when we are attempting to change a habit or improve ourselves (hello new year’s resolutions!). Just like when we are in a time of transition and are needing and wanting to make changes in our life, we can, unfortunately be our own worst enemy.
This time of year, when we are just a few weeks into the New Year, the resolutions we made a couple of weeks ago can already be starting to feel a little challenging. Regardless of how deeply we desire to change and feel better, we can find ourselves resisting change, or worse; actively sabotaging our own efforts to either seek support or make positive changes in our lives.
What do I mean by self-sabotage? Continue reading
Happy New Year! And welcome to 2018. Here we are, only a day or so into the New Year, and perhaps, like me, you are using this holiday time to rest, recharge and connect with your loved ones. You may also be taking stock of 2017 and, like many of us, setting some new goals for this year.
It’s a question every parent of a toddler faces multiple times a day. But it’s also commonly asked of us in adult conversations too. Whether we are a corporate high-flyer, a stay at home mum, a working mum, or any other combination, it’s hard to escape the question; ‘What is your why?’
People paced. Others sat. Some chatted on their phones, and others poked frantically at the device cradled lovingly in their palm.
But we were all waiting.
Whether we have experienced a transition, grief, or significant change in our lives, there come times when we feel the need to change direction. Changing direction can be a choice we consciously make, or something that is decided for us. Sometimes circumstances dictate that a change of direction is the only way to move forward.
It’s okay to change direction.
In our lives, whether we are parents or not, grieving or not, experiencing change or not, we all have times when our ‘bags’ feel full. Our head is full to overwhelm and we feel restricted by demands and expectations.
What if we simply emptied our bags?
When we change our habits and routines, or take a break and leave town, almost magically, the way we experience time feels different too. It feels slower, and more memorable. We recall in more detail what we did, who we saw, what we ate; our lives feel more interesting.
Knowing this, and using this to our advantage can assist with coping when we have experienced loss.