Creating a bucket list is a popular thing to do. But I must confess, until a couple of weeks ago, I didn’t have one. And I hadn’t given the creation of one much thought either, until a comment from a friend let me know that an experience I had recently, was on her bucket list. It got me thinking; maybe I should create a bucket list.
But first I needed to find out, what exactly was a bucket list and what was the benefit of one?
Self-sabotage can occur when we are attempting to change a habit or improve ourselves (hello new year’s resolutions!). Just like when we are in a time of transition and are needing and wanting to make changes in our life, we can, unfortunately be our own worst enemy.
This time of year, when we are just a few weeks into the New Year, the resolutions we made a couple of weeks ago can already be starting to feel a little challenging. Regardless of how deeply we desire to change and feel better, we can find ourselves resisting change, or worse; actively sabotaging our own efforts to either seek support or make positive changes in our lives.
What do I mean by self-sabotage? Continue reading
Happy New Year! And welcome to 2018. Here we are, only a day or so into the New Year, and perhaps, like me, you are using this holiday time to rest, recharge and connect with your loved ones. You may also be taking stock of 2017 and, like many of us, setting some new goals for this year.
It’s a question every parent of a toddler faces multiple times a day. But it’s also commonly asked of us in adult conversations too. Whether we are a corporate high-flyer, a stay at home mum, a working mum, or any other combination, it’s hard to escape the question; ‘What is your why?’
People paced. Others sat. Some chatted on their phones, and others poked frantically at the device cradled lovingly in their palm.
But we were all waiting.
Whether we have experienced a transition, grief, or significant change in our lives, there come times when we feel the need to change direction. Changing direction can be a choice we consciously make, or something that is decided for us. Sometimes circumstances dictate that a change of direction is the only way to move forward.
It’s okay to change direction.
In our lives, whether we are parents or not, grieving or not, experiencing change or not, we all have times when our ‘bags’ feel full. Our head is full to overwhelm and we feel restricted by demands and expectations.
What if we simply emptied our bags?
When we change our habits and routines, or take a break and leave town, almost magically, the way we experience time feels different too. It feels slower, and more memorable. We recall in more detail what we did, who we saw, what we ate; our lives feel more interesting.
Knowing this, and using this to our advantage can assist with coping when we have experienced loss.
Got a dream? A big, slightly scary dream that fills you with equal parts excitement and fear?
You’re completely forgiven if you don’t, as right now, with the excitement of the New Year there is rather a lot of hype around the latest diets, health plans, make-overs and the like. Dreams mostly don’t get a mention.
Instead at this time of year, we are inundated with articles, posts and advertisements promising that if we just follow a certain program, or steps we will change our life, and will look and feel fabulous too!
But what about those dreams? Where do they come into it?
When we undergo change, whether it be wanted (such as taking a course) or unwanted (such as the loss of our child), we experience many insights and learn a lot too.
This year has been full of change for me, and my family also. We knew in advance it would be that kind of year. Continue reading