Category: Grief Support (page 2 of 4)

The upside of negative emotions; it’s okay to feel sad

There are valuable upsides in allowing ourselves to experience feeling sad and the so-called negative emotions.

Over the past couple of decades, there has been an increased labelling of emotions as positive and negative.  As part of this, sadness has been seen as a negative, and something to be avoided at all costs.  And, happiness is seen as a positive emotion, and one we are all striving to achieve.  But, in order to live balanced, well-adjusted lives, we need to experience both emotions.

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Create space for creativity and heal your heart

A few days ago I read a post by a fellow life coach, who was predicting that creativity would be a big theme this year. I noted this with interest, and yet also felt like it was a not really news.  You see creativity, the need for creative expression and allowing space for creativity in my life has been a constant since I was a child; it’s a lifelong theme, not just something for this year. 

Creativity has been my comfort and go-to approach at many times of my life, but it really came into its own when we lost our son.

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Change alters time; It’s Okay to leave town

When we change our habits and routines, or take a break and leave town, almost magically, the way we experience time feels different too.   It feels slower, and more memorable. We recall in more detail what we did, who we saw, what we ate; our lives feel more interesting.

Knowing this, and using this to our advantage can assist with coping when we have experienced loss.

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How to manage heightened emotions at Christmas

Learn how to manage your heightened emotions at Christmas time in this guest post by Intuitive Coach Laurelle Wishart.

Ho ho ho! Christmas is really close now. Can you feel it?  The air feels supercharged, with people racing to get things done, buy final bits and pieces, finish up at work, make last-minute arrangements and attend family dinners, presentations, celebrations and endless ‘occasions’.

Christmas is an emotional time, there’s no getting around it.  And if you’ve experienced a significant loss in your life, so many moments this time of year can trigger sadness and grief – the conversations with loved ones and strangers, the music, food, smells and memories that seamlessly and sometimes painfully bring the past into the present.

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Valuing Tradition; Creating new traditions and rituals after child loss

Rituals and traditions play an important part in our lives.  Whether we identify as religious, spiritual or neither, rituals and traditions are forms of structure that help life flow more easily.

As bereaved parents, the importance of tradition is particularly felt around the holiday season and Christmas, when having traditions, or creating new traditions can help us get through potentially challenging times.

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It’s Okay to trust your instincts

Trusting our instincts, or listening to our intuition, is something we women are supposedly good at.  But, it can take life experience and practice to really learn what that really means.  Learning to trust our instincts can take time.

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You are a role model; even when you don’t know it

It’s Okay to be you.

I know, this seems pretty obvious!  But we can all do with a reminder from time to time.  It’s safe to be yourself, and you are needed.  You are a role model.

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It’s Okay to be Brave (especially when you feel it least)

‘You are so brave!’

This has been said to me many times in my life.  Each time though, I did not feel brave.  Bravery and being brave were often the last things on my mind.

Rather, I was simply doing what I felt I had to do at that time, in that moment.

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Honouring your child; a father’s story

It’s Okay to want to honour your child

When we experience the loss of a much longed for baby, the way we each cope with the loss is different.  And the way we wish to honour those children is as unique as we are; there are similarities, but we are all different.  Even within the one household, partners can have very different wishes regarding how they want to honour their child.

But what about the ways we are the same?

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Pregnancy and Baby Loss: You are Not Alone

Loss – a definition

Loss (noun)

  1. Failure to keep or to continue to have something
  2. The experience of having something taken from you or destroyed

(Merriam-Webster)

Despite the pretty clear similarities in the first and second definitions above (loss; not having something), apparently we can have different definitions of loss, and different interpretations of what that means.

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