Category: Grief Support (page 1 of 4)

Counting my blessings: It’s Okay to be Grateful

Being grateful.

It can feel very hard to be grateful when we are experiencing unwanted change, loss or undergoing a major life transition.  Feeling thankful can be almost impossible when we feel overwhelmed, stressed and grief-stricken.  The very idea of gratitude at this time can be abhorrent and feel completely inappropriate.

Yet expressing gratitude for what we have, and acknowledging the gifts in our life, is the best way I know to lift our mood and improve how we feel.

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-Up – Lisa Wilson

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This quarterly interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Lisa Wilson

Lisa Wilson from Still A Mama.

Today we meet Lisa Wilson.

Based in the UK, Lisa  is the founder and owner of Still A Mama.

She founded Still A Mama after her daughter Gracie was stillborn in July 2016.

Using her passion and creative skills, Lisa designs products to honour all babies taken too soon and sells them through the Still A Mama website.  In this way, she supports Angel Mums on their journey to building a new normal.

Lisa kindly shares her very moving story in her own words, in this interview.  She is an incredibly resilient mother, and I know you will be impressed by this inspiring woman too.

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A Mother’s Love – My Story of Baby Loss

In honour of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, today I share my story.

You may feel you know a fair bit about me, due to what I share here on a regular basis.  But much of my story I have not shared before as it has been too painful, and too personal.

My story is one of a mother’s love.  A story of baby loss.  This week marks 9 years since we lost our second son.  Those nine years sound like a long time, but they also feel like a mere moment.

I share my story today in the hope it may help someone.  Another parent who has lost a baby and is grieving and feeling alone.  Maybe that parent is you.

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Emotional triggers: the power of smell

There are particular smells that remind us of things, experiences, places, and people.  Scent triggers are highly emotional and can be found in the most unusual circumstances.

The sniff of a certain perfume, the scent of the freshly mown lawn, the strong chlorine smell of the local public pool…  All of these can evoke very powerful, and at times overwhelming, memories.

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It’s Okay to get off the bus; you can choose to engage or not

A few short months after the loss of our baby boy, my eldest son and I were taking a bus trip into town.  It was an exciting time for him, as he loved taking the bus anywhere as it was such a novelty!

We were seated near the front of the bus, and he was busy talking to me about all the buildings, cars, trucks, other buses and the other things he could see.  He was pure 2-year-old enthusiasm; happy, joyful and excited!  I was enjoying his enthusiasm despite feeling bus-sick (yes, I am an adult who still gets motion sick…)

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Embrace the moment: It’s okay to be mindful

Being mindful is like the new black.  Being in the moment. Mindfulness.

Everyone talks about it and we all apparently *should* aspire to have moments of it in our days.  It’s been shown to improve our well-being and improve our productivity, efficiency and overall happiness.  For all people that sounds pretty good, but as busy mothers, it sounds amazing, right!?

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Interviews with Inspiring Women: Upset to Set-Up – Patricia McPhail

Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women

This occasional interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset.  Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way.  They have turned their upset into a set-up.  Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.

Patricia McPhail

joyhopelove.com

Patricia McPhail. Photo: Emily McPhail

Today we meet Patricia McPhail, Founder of HopeforOllie.  HopeforOllie designs and sells handmade children’s clothing and accessories for 0-10 year olds.

Patricia created HopeforOllie in 2010 after her son Oliver was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) at 10 weeks of age.  DMD is a fatal genetic condition which causes muscles to weaken and break down, leading to progressive difficulty with walking and general mobility.  Currently there is no cure for DMD, and suffers have a 20 to 25 year life expectancy.   Patricia is a mother who wants to make a difference to the lives of all DMD boys and their families by raising funds for clinical research into a cure.

I loved this interview, and I am sure you will too. Patricia is an absolutely inspiring woman.

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Focus your attention elsewhere; It’s okay to admire

It’s okay to admire people, places and things.

When we are feeling down, sad or grief-stricken, it can be very hard to see the positive in life. Our focus is on ourselves, our feelings of sorrow or loss, and even if we desire to feel happy, we may not be able to summon those feelings.

But, when we focus our attention elsewhere, we take ourselves out of our sorrow (and out of our own head), we lift our emotional state.  And a simple way to do this is via admiration.

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Moving home: when change involves saying goodbye again

Our home is a place where ideally, we feel most ourselves. It is a place of shelter and sanctuary that offers security and comfort.  Our homes also hold many of our most valuable  things; our loved ones, treasured heirlooms and possessions, as well as precious memories.

We are currently in the process of preparing to move house, and as a result I am feeling like Marie Kondo on speed!  I’m touching every single item in my home and asking not only does this spark joy, but is it useful, do we need it, do we love it and will we need it in our new abode.  That is a lot of questions to be running through your head, let me tell you!

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Grief in the family; It’s Okay to allow others to mourn

When we lose a baby, it’s not just us who experience grief and mourn.  Those around us, our parents, our siblings and any children we already have, also all grieve.

Of course, we know this, but it can be very hard to recall when we are consumed by our own loss and the associated pain.

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