Our home is a place where ideally, we feel most ourselves. It is a place of shelter and sanctuary that offers security and comfort. Our homes also hold many of our most valuable things; our loved ones, treasured heirlooms and possessions, as well as precious memories.
We are currently in the process of preparing to move house, and as a result I am feeling like Marie Kondo on speed! I’m touching every single item in my home and asking not only does this spark joy, but is it useful, do we need it, do we love it and will we need it in our new abode. That is a lot of questions to be running through your head, let me tell you!
This week it has been a year since I started blogging. I have posted every week, except the week of Christmas, where I gave myself some time off to spend with my family.
Posting on this frequency and regularity has taught me a few things I’d like to share with you in this post today, to mark the anniversary of this website and my blogging experience.
We have all heard the saying ‘love thy neighbour’. It’s one of those sayings that even if we aren’t religious, we hear in at least once or twice in our lives.
When I think of ‘love thy neighbour’ I have always assumed it means to be kind. Which, funnily enough, is exactly what today’s post is all about. Continue reading
When we lose a baby, it’s not just us who experience grief and mourn. Those around us, our parents, our siblings and any children we already have, also all grieve.
Of course, we know this, but it can be very hard to recall when we are consumed by our own loss and the associated pain.
The love of words, and particularly the love of a good quote has been with me nearly all my life. Ever since I was a young girl, words and their meanings engaged my attention.
It was as a teenager that quotes really started to resonate with me, and I started actively seeking out, reading, writing and noting down the pithy little statements! Some quotes were amusing, some profound, some were particularly apt at the time, and some I just loved for no reason I could articulate – I just did.
There are valuable upsides in allowing ourselves to experience feeling sad and the so-called negative emotions.
Over the past couple of decades, there has been an increased labelling of emotions as positive and negative. As part of this, sadness has been seen as a negative, and something to be avoided at all costs. And, happiness is seen as a positive emotion, and one we are all striving to achieve. But, in order to live balanced, well-adjusted lives, we need to experience both emotions.
It’s almost February. Which I am sure for some people means they are well-established and well-underway taking action toward achieving their plans and goals for this year.
But, I’d hazard a guess that for a good proportion of working mothers, this is not the case. Yes, really.
As women, whether we are working or not, mothers or not, grieving or not, we can often find ourselves with a sense of overwhelm. Generally, our society expects us to be wonder-women; to do everything with style and grace, and of course, with a smile.
But so often this sense of expectation leads to overwhelm, burnout and resentment.
What if it was Okay for us to simply say no?
A few days ago I read a post by a fellow life coach, who was predicting that creativity would be a big theme this year. I noted this with interest, and yet also felt like it was a not really news. You see creativity, the need for creative expression and allowing space for creativity in my life has been a constant since I was a child; it’s a lifelong theme, not just something for this year.
Creativity has been my comfort and go-to approach at many times of my life, but it really came into its own when we lost our son.
When we change our habits and routines, or take a break and leave town, almost magically, the way we experience time feels different too. It feels slower, and more memorable. We recall in more detail what we did, who we saw, what we ate; our lives feel more interesting.
Knowing this, and using this to our advantage can assist with coping when we have experienced loss.