It’s almost February. Which I am sure for some people means they are well-established and well-underway taking action toward achieving their plans and goals for this year.
But, I’d hazard a guess that for a good proportion of working mothers, this is not the case. Yes, really.
As women, whether we are working or not, mothers or not, grieving or not, we can often find ourselves with a sense of overwhelm. Generally, our society expects us to be wonder-women; to do everything with style and grace, and of course, with a smile.
But so often this sense of expectation leads to overwhelm, burnout and resentment.
What if it was Okay for us to simply say no?
A few days ago I read a post by a fellow life coach, who was predicting that creativity would be a big theme this year. I noted this with interest, and yet also felt like it was a not really news. You see creativity, the need for creative expression and allowing space for creativity in my life has been a constant since I was a child; it’s a lifelong theme, not just something for this year.
Creativity has been my comfort and go-to approach at many times of my life, but it really came into its own when we lost our son.
When we change our habits and routines, or take a break and leave town, almost magically, the way we experience time feels different too. It feels slower, and more memorable. We recall in more detail what we did, who we saw, what we ate; our lives feel more interesting.
Knowing this, and using this to our advantage can assist with coping when we have experienced loss.
Got a dream? A big, slightly scary dream that fills you with equal parts excitement and fear?
You’re completely forgiven if you don’t, as right now, with the excitement of the New Year there is rather a lot of hype around the latest diets, health plans, make-overs and the like. Dreams mostly don’t get a mention.
Instead at this time of year, we are inundated with articles, posts and advertisements promising that if we just follow a certain program, or steps we will change our life, and will look and feel fabulous too!
But what about those dreams? Where do they come into it?
Learn how to manage your heightened emotions at Christmas time in this guest post by Intuitive Coach Laurelle Wishart.
Ho ho ho! Christmas is really close now. Can you feel it? The air feels supercharged, with people racing to get things done, buy final bits and pieces, finish up at work, make last-minute arrangements and attend family dinners, presentations, celebrations and endless ‘occasions’.
Christmas is an emotional time, there’s no getting around it. And if you’ve experienced a significant loss in your life, so many moments this time of year can trigger sadness and grief – the conversations with loved ones and strangers, the music, food, smells and memories that seamlessly and sometimes painfully bring the past into the present.
As working mothers, school holidays and this time of year can bring mixed emotions. We are excited to spend time with our children, and looking forward to the change in routine. But we may also be facing a number of weeks where we need to continue to work, whilst our children are not at school.
Rituals and traditions play an important part in our lives. Whether we identify as religious, spiritual or neither, rituals and traditions are forms of structure that help life flow more easily.
As bereaved parents, the importance of tradition is particularly felt around the holiday season and Christmas, when having traditions, or creating new traditions can help us get through potentially challenging times.
Trusting our instincts, or listening to our intuition, is something we women are supposedly good at. But, it can take life experience and practice to really learn what that really means. Learning to trust our instincts can take time.
Yes, it’s nearly the end of the year again. And as busy mothers, we know that the holidays at this time of year bring great joy but also potential overwhelm.
With the school year wrapping up (here in the Australia anyway), the working year heading into end-of-year party time, plus the holiday season rapidly approaching, many of us are rushed off our feet for these last few weeks of the year. We have multiple things to do on our to-do list, places to be and people to see. Plus, as mothers, we tend to have a huge list of things to get done that don’t even make it onto our to-do list!
Avoiding feeling overwhelmed is even more important if you are experiencing grief or a heightened emotional state.
But how do we find calm in this space? How do we avoid feeling overwhelmed?