In honour of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, today I share my story.
You may feel you know a fair bit about me, due to what I share here on a regular basis. But much of my story I have not shared before as it has been too painful, and too personal.
My story is one of a mother’s love. A story of baby loss. This week marks 9 years since we lost our second son. Those nine years sound like a long time, but they also feel like a mere moment.
I share my story today in the hope it may help someone. Another parent who has lost a baby and is grieving and feeling alone. Maybe that parent is you.
There are particular smells that remind us of things, experiences, places, and people. Scent triggers are highly emotional and can be found in the most unusual circumstances.
The sniff of a certain perfume, the scent of the freshly mown lawn, the strong chlorine smell of the local public pool… All of these can evoke very powerful, and at times overwhelming, memories.
What is a joy break? Read on and I’ll explain.
When we are super busy (whether we are enjoying ourselves or not), one of the best things we can do for our own well-being is take a break. Whilst this may seem obvious, I have found only a few of us remember to do it. I put myself in the category of those who frequently forget!
There are times in our life when taking action can feel hard. When we are experiencing a life-changing transition, or are feeling overwhelmed and stuck, contemplating our future self can help. When we decide to do something for our future self, our motivation is higher, procrastination is lessened and we tend to step into action.
People paced. Others sat. Some chatted on their phones, and others poked frantically at the device cradled lovingly in their palm.
But we were all waiting.
Whether we have experienced a transition, grief, or significant change in our lives, there come times when we feel the need to change direction. Changing direction can be a choice we consciously make, or something that is decided for us. Sometimes circumstances dictate that a change of direction is the only way to move forward.
It’s okay to change direction.
Welcome to the ‘Upset to Set-Up’ Series: Interviews with Inspiring Women
This occasional interview series shines a spotlight on inspiring women and shares their stories of resilience in the face of upset. Here we interview women who have overcome significant tragedy, loss or upset and used that experience to set themselves up in a new and different way. They have turned their upset into a set-up. Each guest generously shares what they have been through to find the joy in life.
Today we meet Natalie Roberts. Natalie is the founder of Miracle Mama, a global online sanctuary that empowers and inspires mothers who are raising special needs children.
Through coaching, community, and collaborations, Natalie’s mission is to create a space for women to reconnect with themselves and what is most important to them. To rise to the challenge of special needs parenting and to meet each day with more ease and flow.
Learning more about Natalie in this interview was so inspiring , and I know you will be inspired by this amazing woman too. Continue reading
In our lives, whether we are parents or not, grieving or not, experiencing change or not, we all have times when our ‘bags’ feel full. Our head is full to overwhelm and we feel restricted by demands and expectations.
What if we simply emptied our bags?
A few short months after the loss of our baby boy, my eldest son and I were taking a bus trip into town. It was an exciting time for him, as he loved taking the bus anywhere as it was such a novelty!
We were seated near the front of the bus, and he was busy talking to me about all the buildings, cars, trucks, other buses and the other things he could see. He was pure 2-year-old enthusiasm; happy, joyful and excited! I was enjoying his enthusiasm despite feeling bus-sick (yes, I am an adult who still gets motion sick…)
As a parent who has lost a child, I am acutely aware of how quickly life can change or end. In an instant, our whole world can be turned upside down. Life is short, and precious.
Regardless of whether you have lost someone or not, we all want to make the most of our life. We want to look back without regret. We want to live our life fully; to appreciate it and not feel we are constantly ‘waiting’ until we can live that life.
But how do we honour that feeling? How do we ensure our life has purpose? What spurs us into action? How do we bring joy back into the everyday?
Truthfully, the biggest motivator for me is contemplating my ending.