As mothers, self-love and self-care are a necessity, as beautifully explained in this guest post by Olga Dossa.
Our children become who we are, not what we tell them to be.
I experienced this most clearly than when my mother unexpectedly died 10 years ago.
It’s Okay to want to honour your child
When we experience the loss of a much longed for baby, the way we each cope with the loss is different. And the way we wish to honour those children is as unique as we are; there are similarities, but we are all different. Even within the one household, partners can have very different wishes regarding how they want to honour their child.
But what about the ways we are the same?
Loss – a definition
- Failure to keep or to continue to have something
- The experience of having something taken from you or destroyed
Despite the pretty clear similarities in the first and second definitions above (loss; not having something), apparently we can have different definitions of loss, and different interpretations of what that means.
It’s Okay to express gratitude.
In our busy lives, we can be so caught up ‘doing’ we can forget to appreciate all the wonderful people, places, experiences and things we have in our lives. We are busy being the best we can be, yet missing the little moments.
Yet being grateful and expressing gratitude for what we have is one of the best ways to slow down, be mindful and connect with the little things (and people) that bring meaning to our lives.