“Seeking someone with a good sense of humour”…
It is widely acknowledged that humour, and laughter in particular, releases endorphins which help us feel good. Which I guess is why we all seek this in our friends, and also in our life partners. There are countless articles about the benefits of humour, books, and even movies (remember the late great Robin Williams as Patch Adams?) Humour helps us feel good and helps us heal.
When our second son was stillborn at 35 weeks there was not a lot of laughter. It was the toughest and saddest time of my life. We were struggling to comprehend why our son died, and yet had to plan and organise a funeral for our tiny child to be held within days of his birth.
It was a dark period for me. A time of extreme emotional pain, worsened by the physical pain of post-labour cramping – all of which felt like further insult when there was no child to hold. A time of extreme grief, pain, anger, disbelief and of course, tears.
Yet, there were moments, glimpses, of normal life. These appeared fleetingly, and would pass again. But often these little moments involved a touch of humour.